How to handle the internal conflicts sparked by a turning point

Turning points manifest themselves in different ways throughout our lifetime. Sometimes they come as a result of our choosing, other times they appear as a result of actions beyond our control. Either way, turning points present us with opportunities to let go of something, refocus our goals or take the plunge into something new...

In all honesty, however, choosing not to embrace a turning point is a turning point in itself - we are forced to consider new alternatives and weigh out the pros and cons of a variety of situations. It is a high-octane moment, where we ultimately must choose one and move forward with our decision.  

In this article, I will explore some of the internal conflicts that occur when we are presented with a turning point. This will essentially be about finding and choosing the journey which will truly challenge and help grow your authentic self.

1. Embrace your inquisitive streak

Our human spirit is constantly seeking a desire to go beyond the mundane and familiar. When we deny this fundamental need, we are rejecting what is possible and the psychological impact of this decision can negatively impact us.

Turning points, in many ways, are inquisitive in that they undeniably force us to wonder what could be. In this mindset we are offered the opportunity to commit to a vision, regardless of the hard work and uncertainty. Once we commit to this vision then we can begin to plan how to move forward.

2. Prepare to be challenged

Hard work, it is the only way we can measure how far we have come and where we need to go. This, however, does not mean that working hard will garner the right results immediately- but it helps us acquire knowledge of what works and ‘why ‘. Be wary of anything that offers instant gratification- think about the long term. As the saying goes, “if it seems too good to be true, it probably is” and there will be a price to pay.

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3. Let go of your ego

Ego has always been the deluder in any endeavor. To believe you possess knowledge and are indeed better than others is setting a limitation on your infinite potential. In eastern study, they often refer to the outer and inner self; the outer self is the way we look, and how we portray ourselves to the world i.e. our ego; our inner self- is our ‘authentic’ identity. Undeniably we possess both, and are constantly in battle, but letting go of your ego is a powerful thing to do; humility opens your eyes to the world and widens your perspective.

Turning points must be judged for what knowledge and growth they can offer, regardless of the status and wealth promised. This doesn’t mean that choosing the option with the least financial reward is right - ego transcends boundaries - and it also doesn’t mean that one option will offer less or no knowledge at all, it is about choosing the journey that could lead to your goal.

4. Commit to growth, not clichés

With all relationships, be it business partners, work colleague or friends, growth should be the united goal. It’s a commitment to oneself and others that in this relationship growth will be the key benefit to everyone involved. Simply put, ‘to grow and become better together’. Of course, at some point these relationships can naturally lead us onto our different pathways but by surrounding ourselves with people who share the same common goal to become better, our perspective is widened and we can continue to flourish. A child and parent grow together, so wealth and status should never be the key dominator to the company kept. Growth should.

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